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This started out as a blog about our domestic adoption. So all of the older posts are about that journey. It was an interesting one, and it led us to our son, Jacob. My dream since I was a little girl was typical of most little girls. I wanted to get married, and have children and be a stay at home Mom. Although, not a very popular choice for a profession now a day, I find it very rewarding. As a matter of fact, every day is an adventure! I've been told personally that the stay at home Mom profession isn't 'work', but spend a day with me and you'll see just how much 'work' it is!!! It's blessed work!

Thursday, June 17, 2010

"A Successful Match" manual

"Do's & Don'ts"
Imagine the following situation in a car: You're in the backseat, the birth mother is the driver and American Adoptions is the guide providing the directions. The birth mother has all the control. She can choose to follow the directions provided by AA or not follow them. You, the adoptive family, are along for the ride. You may have a different route in mind but you don't have control over where she takes you. It is best to sit back, relax, and go along for the ride. While every ride doesn't end up at the planned destination, one of these drives will take you to your final destination, a new baby."
DO: be patient, relinquish control, keep a normal routine, be flexible, trust your gut, enjoy your
experience, educate yourself, keep promises, and prepare for changes.
DON'T: Expect things set in stone, quit your job, tell everyone you know about the match, rely
on outside advice, focus on all the details, get ahead of yourself, be paranoid or jump to
conclusions, or sell your sports car for a minivan.

This is the opening page of our latest manual that we received in the mail. Haven't gotten to read past this page yet, but not really liking where this is going. Although we already understand all this part. Relinquishing control is a tough thing. Giving the birth mother all the control...it's tough, but necessary for a successful match. I'm so glad that we have God to rely on with all of this. I don't have a problem relinquish control to Him. I know He has our best interest at heart and that He loves us more than anyone can. We'll just trust Him.

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